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Feeling lonely in a new city

Small, doable steps for the first few months somewhere new. Feeling this way is common, and it can pass.

22 items · 5 sections · wellbeing, mental-health, city

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Get help now (3)

  • If you feel you can't go on, talk to someone todayUS: call or text 988. India: Tele-MANAS 14416 or 1-800-891-4416. Elsewhere: findahelpline.com.Open
  • You do not have to be in crisis to callYou can ring just to talk.
  • Low for more than two weeks? See a doctor or counsellor

This week (5)

  • Be kind to yourself: this is not a failureLots of people feel this way after a move.
  • Call or message one person from home
  • Say hello to one person you see often: a neighbour or shopkeeper
  • Keep up your sleep, meals and a walk outside each day
  • Find one regular place: a cafe, library or park

This month (5)

  • Join one group built around something you likeSports, language, faith, board games, running. Meeting the same people each week helps.
  • Go three times before you decide about itThe first time is the hardest.
  • Volunteer once or twice
  • Say yes to one invitation, even a small one
  • Ask a colleague or classmate for a coffee or a walk

Make friends stick (5)

  • Swap numbers and suggest a next plan
  • Be the one to ask firstOthers are often waiting to be asked.
  • Meet new people in a safe, public place at first
  • Invite someone along to a free event near you
  • Check on someone else who is new

Watch out for (4)

  • Comparing yourself with people on social mediaMost share only the good things.
  • Evenings of scrolling in place of going out: set a small limit
  • Using alcohol to get through lonely evenings
  • Weekends or holidays that feel hardest: plan one small thing ahead

Written from www.nhs.uk

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